I haven't got time to read through several pages of comments to see what you're meaning. I get that people were upset, I was really upset, too. Everyone was upset when little gothlet Nicky Raphael was bullied to death, tributes were made, but the fund-raising efforts of one group helped 60 victims of bullying and the events raised awareness and the continuation of such events raised money for several other charities.
I'm not trying to disrespect what they are doing, not at all. I just think that amount of cash the cash could go to better use.
I didn't know this lass so I'd feel a bit off for contributing to some kind of memorial, that's a job for loved ones in my eyes.
I would prefer to be of some use in whatever small way I can to raise awareness and/or support victims. Is there is a specific comment that I should be reading? Did the family request donations for the memorial bench or something? If so, then people are doing what the family actually wants and that's lovely.